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  • 4th April
    2014
  • 04
"...acceptance ends abruptly when our mental illness becomes inconvenient"

churchrat:

people are very accepting of depression and anxiety and other mental illness until they run across someone who doesn’t fit the narrative of “aw poor sad beautiful shy girl who’s perfect in every way except she can’t see it but if you tell her you love her she’ll magically be cured”

because guess what it’s not that easy it’s not that simple it doesn’t work that way

mentally ill people are hard to deal with

we are by turns annoying and aggressive and shy and manic and depressed

we are not always fun to be around

we are difficult

and guess what? telling us we’re beautiful or we shouldn’t feel sad or we’re loved isn’t going to magically fix that

and god forbid we be crazy in a way that’s irritating to you

because the same people who claim to be there “if anyone needs anything at all!!!! <333” are usually the ones who are dismissive, cruel, who laugh when, god forbid, someone ISN’T that shy, sad, broken teenage girl who just needs someone to love her

and that acceptance ends abruptly when our mental illness becomes inconvenient

and that’s just fucked up.

(via xbox-one-official)

YES. THIS.

I’ve had friends who are like “however I can help!” and then when I get out of the hospital diversion facility and I’m like “I need people to hang out with me”, they’re no where to be found. I guess they all assume that someone ELSE will do it, but they’re too busy to.

Fuck that noise.

(via chickgonebad)

  • 4th April
    2014
  • 04

lilputa:

eastafriqueen:

cozyqueen:

allblackerrrythang:

butthurt white people

I love how they rlly hate to see someone doing better than them & then put it off on race like if a white dude had the same achievements no one would be doing anything but sucking his dick and patting him on the back like this is some top tier hater shit & it’s so funny

White people love to bring up affirmative action as if their entire lives aren’t a fucking breeze

They’re acting like this kid didn’t put in work to get where he is though. They literally think it was handed to him because he’s black???? Yeah that’s definitely how America works

To be fair, some of the commenters were Asian. And colleges can only allow so many people in. I do know folks who couldn’t get in places who had impeccable applications.

But, let’s be honest, when everything is equal (scores, grades, extracurricular activities, etc.), you have to choose somehow, so making sure that a little of everyone gets in is a very good idea. All those people with impeccable applications who got rejected… so did other folks who did just as well as you, or even better than you. LOTS of folks got rejected, so don’t feel singled out. They have to reject SOME folks, and sometimes lots of folks.

But, to deal with eastafriqueen’s comments, frankly, lots of white people’s lives aren’t a fucking breeze. They may (or may not) have to deal with other forms of oppression, such as sexism, poverty, or disability, or being queer or gender-different. You may have some privileges they don’t have. So to say that everyone who’s white’s life is a fucking breeze is ignorant. But yes, we do not have to deal with systemic racism, and that’s a major definite privilege we have and not one I would ever wish to gloss over. I will be the first to admit that I profit from white privilege, and it’s not something I’m happy about, and it’s something I wish to change. However, I have a major disability. Every day of my life is a struggle. I have to deal with ableism on a daily basis. Do you? (Maybe you do. Maybe you don’t.) And because I have a disability that’s major enough it keeps me from being able to work a normal job, I also have to deal with poverty. Do you? (Once again, maybe yes, maybe no. Many, but not all, Black/African-American people have to deal with poverty and class issues because of racism.)

Different people have different privileges and different oppressions. One can not assume that just because one has a certain privilege, their life is “a fucking breeze” and they have no other oppressions.

(via wordsandloveandloveandwords)

  • 4th April
    2014
  • 04

seriousjones:

officers, i’m afraid you can’t arrest me for murder. when i murdered that guy, i was only doing it to highlight how ridiculous and wrong is to murder someone. it was actually quite anti-murder if you think about it. i understand how you might make that mistake, but next time i hope you don’t take my actions out of context :^)

Hmm… we could say this very thing about that thing I just reblogged re: women catcalling men.

Our laws have to be neutral. We can’t have them favoring one group (affirmative action brings things to neutral, not favoring), even if that group is/has been oppressed in the past.

(via chickgonebad)

  • 4th April
    2014
  • 04

anxiousbagel:

emotionally manipulative things you should never say to people:

  • "i would kill myself without you"
  • "everyone leaves me, don’t leave me like they did"
  • basically anything that guilts the other person into staying in a relationship with you

Know that if someone says this, they might have borderline personality disorder, which is a real (and HELLA difficult to have) mental disorder, and they might be saying those things because they’re going through emotions so strong they’re terrified and can’t deal with them. (People with borderline personality disorder have extremely strong/acute emotions that they can’t help and are often beyond their ability to cope with, very intense mood swings that they can’t control, and an extreme fear of abandonment that leads them to take extreme actions.)

So many of the posts that have actions of abusers, many of those actions are ones that people with BPD take just trying to cope with what’s going on inside of them. So before we paint abusers as bad people, or all people who do those things as abusers, let’s examine the person and what they did and why they’re doing it. Let’s find out what’s going on inside of them and get them some help.

(via sodavalley)

  • 4th April
    2014
  • 04
How to Fulfill Your Fetish Online Without Being an Asshole

smrfysmrfysmrf:

c4bl3fl4m3:

girlyjuice:

I don’t have a fetish, so I don’t know what it’s like to have one. But I imagine that fetishists, especially those whose fetishes are unusual or taboo or both, often have a hard time finding materials or situations that get them off.

Desperate times call for…

Being upfront with someone that you have a fetish will be easier if you’re talking to sex bloggers or other fetishists, but keep in mind that they don’t necessarily share your kinks. All of these rules apply when messaging other fetishists whom you’ve never spoken to before. We are all human beings, and deserve to be treated like it.

Oh, of course. That’s what I always say and it’s what gets me so mad about people’s fetishphobia. Because people conflate “fetishist” with “creepy” or “always objectifiying”. And I say the problem/trick isn’t the desire, it’s what you DO with the desire. It’s how you TREAT people who fulfill that desire. I’m tired of fetishizing being used as synonymous with objectifying, and, in fact, I wrote a whole thing on the subject (if you’re interested, I’ll point you to it), because fetishizing merely means “the application of one’s fetish to something”.

I’m still going back and forth in my head on whether objectification requires treatment of a person or can happen theoretically (or, whether, if you just objectify in your head but NEVER in someone’s treatment, if it’s bad or wrong… remember, whenever we find see someone attractive on the street and we find them hot and find ourselves thinking naughty things about them, it’s objectifying, because we only know what they look like… everyone technically objectifies all the time), but it’s very possible for a person to be an ethical fetishist (I teach classes on how to do it) and treat other people as human beings first and foremost and always (unless they’ve consented differently). In fact, I think most fetishists do that, but people either don’t meet them/see them (because most fetishists aren’t part of the BDSM/kink community as a whole) or only see/remember the creeps who don’t.

Of course, I’ve also had someone be creeped out because all I did was mention in passing conversation that I have a fat fetish. I talked to them normally, I treated them just fine. But I’d like to posit if it’s ok for someone to go up to someone at the club and say “I just wanted to compliment you on your outfit. Your ass looks great in that.” then it should be ok to say “your belly looks fantastic” or “your feet are very sexy”. If it’s ok to give positive expressions of “vanilla” or “standard BDSM/kink” sexuality, that is, sexual compliments that line up with vanilla or standard BDSM kink desires, then it should be ok to give equally respectful positive expressions of fetish sexuality/desire. To say otherwise is to treat fetishes as not as acceptable or lesser than BDSM/kink desires or vanilla sexuality, and that’s fetishphobia, or rather, non-fetish-sexuality-ism (the heterosexism to homophobia, the cissupremacy to transphobia).

  • 2nd April
    2014
  • 02
The man of the world lives in nuance and by degrees, he lives in a mixture of light and shadow, in confused enchantment or irresolute mediocrity: in the middle. Tragic man lives in the extreme tension between contraries, going from a yes and no confusedly merged back to a yes and a no that are clear and clearly preserved in their opposition. He does not see man as a passable mixture of middling qualities and honest failings, but as an unendurable meeting of extreme grandeur and extreme destitution, an incongruous nothingness in which the two infinites collide.

But how does man become tragic man? And what does he gain by it? What he loses is evident: ease, forgetfulness, tranquil malaise, dull pleasures, a tender inconstancy, and an almost agreeable nausea, neither truth nor lies, but the illusion of both—a mystified life that some might charge is not a life, but that is a life of appearances one will do anything not to lose. But tragic man is one whose existence has suddenly become transformed: from a play of light and shadow it has become both an exigency of absolute clarity and an encounter with heavy darkness, the summons to a true speech and the trial of an infinitely silent space. Finally, it has become the presence of a world incapable of justice and offering only derisory compromise when it is the absolute, and the absolute alone, that is required: hence an uninhabitable world in which one is obliged to dwell. For tragic man, everything has instantly hardened, everything is the face to face of incompatibilities.

Blanchot, The Infinite Conversation (via tiredshoes)

Sounds to me like Tragic Man just has BPD or a number of other mental disorders that make people think/see in black and white terms.

I wonder how much of our literature has examples of people/types of people that are charged with negative qualities (that are considered their fault) when, in the end, those people just had some kind of mental disorder?

(via unfocus)

  • 1st March
    2014
  • 01

In response to that horrible meme started by buttfuckbabe

If your blog is sex negative, porn negative, fetish negative or kink negative, PLEASE unfollow me.

If you have a problem with the idea that someone might want to masturbate to your photos, PLEASE unfollow me.

Remember, once it’s on the internet, people can and will do with it what they want with it. Accept that or don’t post shit. I can understand you wouldn’t want it to be altered in any way, and I respect that, but having a problem with people reblogging it for the “wrong reasons”? Tough titties. You want to be liked, but only in certain ways. You want people to find you attractive, but not too attractive, and not attractive in the “wrong” ways? That’s so sex negative and porn negative.

I respect people not wanting to get creepy messages from folks. That’s fine and to be expected. But I don’t think you have a right to tell people that they can only look at your pictures in a certain way or they can’t masturbate to them. What people do with pictures on the internet in privacy is their own damn business. Get used to it. Or simply don’t think about it.

  • 28th February
    2014
  • 28

archiemcphee:

"Well, of course I’m being childish! There’s no point being grown-up if you can’t be childish sometimes."

Sandbach, Cheshire, UK-based Playmobil member Emma J made is awesome custom set of steampunk Doctor Who toys featuring a TARDIS, a Dalek, and the 4th Doctor. Tom Baker looks great in tiny plastic form. We hope that beautiful TARDIS is full of Jelly Babies.

Playmobil + Doctor Who = Awesome

Click here to view more of Emma J’s custom Playmobil creations.

[via Nerd Approved]

I LOVED my Playmobile growing up. Other kids had Legos and stuff… I had all of the Playmobile medical sets (except the rescue copter) because I REALLY wanted to be a surgeon and they were full of little details like an EKG machine and masks and tiny fake scalpels and medicine bottles and little casts for the patients. It was AMAZING. (I have ALWAYS loved intricacies and Playmobile was FULL of them. I still love intricate things.)

(via wordsandloveandloveandwords)

  • 26th February
    2014
  • 26
superqueerartsyblog:

a shortie about what I think should be improved when it comes to Pride festivals… visibility for everyone sure would be nice!

God, I hear you. The way that white, cisgender, homosexual/gay men &amp; their agenda dominates Pride has bugged me for a long time too.
The thing is&#8230; there&#8217;s lots of other kinds of queer, but they don&#8217;t always make themselves visible as such. They might just march w/o a sign.
But this is why I always make sure I list bisexual, genderfluid, queer, trans and sometimes even kinky or poly on my sign. I have a button (somewhere) that says visiBIlity.
And I&#8217;m actually ok with our allies cheering us on from the side. As long as they&#8217;re allies. Maybe I&#8217;ll make up some &#8220;Straight/Cis &amp; Watching Pride? Here&#8217;s what you need to know about GLBTQ 101!&#8221; fliers to hand out so we can turn the lookie-loos into allies.
And yes to Pride w/o the other -isms &amp; -phobias. (I&#8217;m totally digging the person in the hijab with the WE from We Are Queer on their shirt/dress/top.)

superqueerartsyblog:

a shortie about what I think should be improved when it comes to Pride festivals… visibility for everyone sure would be nice!

God, I hear you. The way that white, cisgender, homosexual/gay men & their agenda dominates Pride has bugged me for a long time too.

The thing is… there’s lots of other kinds of queer, but they don’t always make themselves visible as such. They might just march w/o a sign.

But this is why I always make sure I list bisexual, genderfluid, queer, trans and sometimes even kinky or poly on my sign. I have a button (somewhere) that says visiBIlity.

And I’m actually ok with our allies cheering us on from the side. As long as they’re allies. Maybe I’ll make up some “Straight/Cis & Watching Pride? Here’s what you need to know about GLBTQ 101!” fliers to hand out so we can turn the lookie-loos into allies.

And yes to Pride w/o the other -isms & -phobias. (I’m totally digging the person in the hijab with the WE from We Are Queer on their shirt/dress/top.)

(via fatshitcray)

  • 26th February
    2014
  • 26
fatkati:

EVER.

This has been a hard lesson for me to learn.
Also, &#8220;you have more to offer than sex.&#8221; or &#8220;sex is not the best thing you can offer&#8230; you have other things just as good that people will appreciate just as much if not more.&#8221;
And, &#8220;your worth is not entirely or even primarily dependent on how well you can fuck.&#8221;
Trufax? I started being really interested in learning about sex because I felt I had no other value so I better be a REALLY good lay, otherwise no one would want to be with me because I was such a loser. (this was also with a natural curiosity about sex.) So, yeah, my interest in sexuality and sex education didn&#8217;t start from the best place. But that&#8217;s not something I usually tell people. But now you know. 

fatkati:

EVER.

This has been a hard lesson for me to learn.

Also, “you have more to offer than sex.” or “sex is not the best thing you can offer… you have other things just as good that people will appreciate just as much if not more.”

And, “your worth is not entirely or even primarily dependent on how well you can fuck.”

Trufax? I started being really interested in learning about sex because I felt I had no other value so I better be a REALLY good lay, otherwise no one would want to be with me because I was such a loser. (this was also with a natural curiosity about sex.) So, yeah, my interest in sexuality and sex education didn’t start from the best place. But that’s not something I usually tell people. But now you know. 

(Source: softwaring, via sodavalley)

  • 13th February
    2014
  • 13

disability pity - now with my take as well!

realsocialskills:

Anonymous asked:
I heard that disabled people dislike getting sympathy, and I had trouble understanding that. But then later I was somewhat disabled, and received some unwanted sympathy, and I found it really horrible. I had a very strong feeling, maybe it could be called humiliation. So then I understood; but I don’t know how to explain that to people who haven’t experienced it. My theory: people like sympathy if something bad has just happened, but if it’s long-term then it’s normal for them.
realsocialskills said:
I think the main problem is that people offer disabled people sympathy for all the wrong reasons.
They want to tell us that our bodies are awful, and sympathize with what they imagine it must be like to be in such an awful body. There’s not a lot of respect there. Or willingness to listen to what we actually experience or how we actually see things.
People like that want to offer sympathy that it’s hard to understand without captions, but no sympathy for how frustrating it is that no one ever provides them. They want to offer sympathy for people’s inability to walk up stairs, but no sympathy for how awful it is that people decide not to build ramps. They want to offer sympathy that someone is dying for disability-related reasons, but no sympathy for the fact that they are being denied treatment by ableist doctors.
People with disabilities are, first and foremost, people. And people who ooze sympathy are not interested in recognizing that.

I have a long-term disability. (Note that mine is mental/psychiatric, not physical.) I can say that I like sympathy. Hell, I even like pity.

What I have is HARD. I have to fight with it EVERY DAMN DAY of my life. It HURTS. It keeps me from being able to have a normal job like normal people. What I have often doesn’t respond to drugs, and they don’t even make drugs for it. (Some folks take drugs for other symptoms that come with it.) The drugs don’t work for me. People with what I have are often times very sensitive to the side effects of drugs, and can have their brains messed up for a very long time after even trying the drug for a very short period of time. This is my case as well.

There is some therapy that can help people with what I have, but it’s not perfect, it’s newer and a bit controversial, and not everyone responds to it as well as others, not to mention some people it’s just not suited for (there’s some Buddhist/spiritual thought involved with it, which doesn’t work well for rationalist me), and it’s not easy to find.

I go through hell constantly, in a society that can’t understand why I possibly might want to not live this way anymore, and that can’t understand that ending my life genuinely might be the only way out. (Note: I am not currently suicidal, but I want people to understand that suicidal isn’t always crazy or the sign of a mind that can’t make good decisions for itself. Sometimes suicide is rational.)

While I’ve had what I’ve had for a long time, and if that’s your definition of normal, then, yes, it’s “normal” to me. But feeling this way, having these extreme emotions, sometimes with swings that are brought on by literally nothing, is nothing but normal. I suppose I previously thought everyone felt this way, that this is just what feelings are like (and that I was the only one who was weak because I was the only one who was freaking out visibly and I was the only one who couldn’t handle them), but that’s also in part because it wasn’t as bad previously and has gotten worse over the years through no fault of my own. But now I know that this isn’t normal, and I was SO RELIEVED to find that out. That I’m not expected to just act like everything is fine, because everything is NOT fine. It’s so good to know that.

I have done nothing to deserve having what I have and feeling what I feel. So, yes, I would like people to have sympathy for me, and to pity me. Because I sometimes feel like I’m the only one here who thinks that it’s wrong that I have to go through this all the time, and that I don’t deserve this, because no one else in the rest of the world seems to be pissed that this happened to me.

(via thelamedame)

  • 13th February
    2014
  • 13
liberalsarecool:

Mitch McConnell goes “full Republican”.

Uh, you act like putting $300 billion into Medicare Part D is a bad thing.
Medicare isn&#8217;t just for elderly white people. Medicare covers every individual 65 or older. Medicare is what someone who qualifies for SSDI (Social Security Disability Insurance) receives. It&#8217;s the ONLY thing they receive if their annual income is over the Federal Poverty Line. Also, it covers folks with End Stage Renal Failure.
I&#8217;m on Medicare, folks. I&#8217;m 31. My Medicare coverage just started this month (Feb 2014). And I know FAR more about Medicare than any 31 year old should ever know.
Let me talk a bit about Medicare Part D.
Medicare Part D is the drug coverage part. If you qualify for Medicare and don&#8217;t have a Part C plan that includes drug coverage (Part C plans are like HMOs &amp; PPOs for Medicare), you are required to have a Part D plan. There are fees for joining Part D late. Part D plans are somewhat complex (as the rest of Medicare is).
I have a feeling that $300 billion is, at least in part, going towards the &#8220;donut hole&#8221; (also known as the coverage gap) in the coverage. In short, after Medicare &amp; you pays for $2,800 towards your drugs (an easily reached number if you take any number of drugs every day during the year), there&#8217;s suddenly VERY LITTLE coverage towards you. You&#8217;re stuck paying ALL to a VERY high percentage of the cost until you&#8217;ve paid out $4,550, and then you hit what&#8217;s called catastrophic coverage and they pay all but 5% of your meds. Some part D plans have coverage in the gap, but they cost more.
Due to the Affordable Care Act, this &#8220;donut hole&#8221; is being decreased slowly each year until 2020 when it no longer exists. (This is why I didn&#8217;t give specific numbers above. Every year the amount the gov&#8217;t pays is changing, and I don&#8217;t remember all the numbers.) But it&#8217;s taking major money to do it.
Mitch McConnell might be a douche, but don&#8217;t lump in Medicare Part D with things like Bush tax cuts and the Iraq war. It&#8217;s a social program that should be supported just like extension of unemployment benefits. (Yes, I get that you&#8217;re talking about not paid for things, but you should be applauding the GOP for finally supporting a social program instead of acting like Medicare is some unnecessary and frivolous spending that only helps out privileged and entitled people.)
I see so many young social justice people not giving a fuck about Medicare because they&#8217;re under the impression it&#8217;s just something for old people. 1.) even if it was, so what? Social programs are social programs and just because it doesn&#8217;t benefit you or someone you know doesn&#8217;t mean it&#8217;s not good or helpful. and 2.) a lot more than just elderly people receive and rely on Medicare. (Does everyone assume that the elderly are privileged and entitled? Because so many old folks are barely scraping by. Or is it because lots of old folks are conservatives? Does this mean that conservatives don&#8217;t deserve social programs too? Because I thought social programs were for everyone, whether or not they supported them. Isn&#8217;t it called taking the upper hand, folks?)
Medicare IS a liberal issue too, ya know. Liberals and/or Democrats SHOULD care about Medicare. (And, btw, I think everyone assumes Medicare is like Medicaid and just covers everything. I&#8217;m on it now and, oh boy, trust me, they don&#8217;t. There are deductibles, copays, and the like just like any other private health insurance plans, and they&#8217;re not always affordable. I don&#8217;t receive enough money a month to make up for what Medicare expects me to spend. Not to mention the mental health coverage is shitty. Yes, there&#8217;s the Mental Health Parity Act but it doesn&#8217;t apply to government programs&#8230; only private health insurances. So they can keep dicking over people with disabilities, esp. folks with mental health disabilities.)

liberalsarecool:

Mitch McConnell goes “full Republican”.

Uh, you act like putting $300 billion into Medicare Part D is a bad thing.

Medicare isn’t just for elderly white people. Medicare covers every individual 65 or older. Medicare is what someone who qualifies for SSDI (Social Security Disability Insurance) receives. It’s the ONLY thing they receive if their annual income is over the Federal Poverty Line. Also, it covers folks with End Stage Renal Failure.

I’m on Medicare, folks. I’m 31. My Medicare coverage just started this month (Feb 2014). And I know FAR more about Medicare than any 31 year old should ever know.

Let me talk a bit about Medicare Part D.

Medicare Part D is the drug coverage part. If you qualify for Medicare and don’t have a Part C plan that includes drug coverage (Part C plans are like HMOs & PPOs for Medicare), you are required to have a Part D plan. There are fees for joining Part D late. Part D plans are somewhat complex (as the rest of Medicare is).

I have a feeling that $300 billion is, at least in part, going towards the “donut hole” (also known as the coverage gap) in the coverage. In short, after Medicare & you pays for $2,800 towards your drugs (an easily reached number if you take any number of drugs every day during the year), there’s suddenly VERY LITTLE coverage towards you. You’re stuck paying ALL to a VERY high percentage of the cost until you’ve paid out $4,550, and then you hit what’s called catastrophic coverage and they pay all but 5% of your meds. Some part D plans have coverage in the gap, but they cost more.

Due to the Affordable Care Act, this “donut hole” is being decreased slowly each year until 2020 when it no longer exists. (This is why I didn’t give specific numbers above. Every year the amount the gov’t pays is changing, and I don’t remember all the numbers.) But it’s taking major money to do it.

Mitch McConnell might be a douche, but don’t lump in Medicare Part D with things like Bush tax cuts and the Iraq war. It’s a social program that should be supported just like extension of unemployment benefits. (Yes, I get that you’re talking about not paid for things, but you should be applauding the GOP for finally supporting a social program instead of acting like Medicare is some unnecessary and frivolous spending that only helps out privileged and entitled people.)

I see so many young social justice people not giving a fuck about Medicare because they’re under the impression it’s just something for old people. 1.) even if it was, so what? Social programs are social programs and just because it doesn’t benefit you or someone you know doesn’t mean it’s not good or helpful. and 2.) a lot more than just elderly people receive and rely on Medicare. (Does everyone assume that the elderly are privileged and entitled? Because so many old folks are barely scraping by. Or is it because lots of old folks are conservatives? Does this mean that conservatives don’t deserve social programs too? Because I thought social programs were for everyone, whether or not they supported them. Isn’t it called taking the upper hand, folks?)

Medicare IS a liberal issue too, ya know. Liberals and/or Democrats SHOULD care about Medicare. (And, btw, I think everyone assumes Medicare is like Medicaid and just covers everything. I’m on it now and, oh boy, trust me, they don’t. There are deductibles, copays, and the like just like any other private health insurance plans, and they’re not always affordable. I don’t receive enough money a month to make up for what Medicare expects me to spend. Not to mention the mental health coverage is shitty. Yes, there’s the Mental Health Parity Act but it doesn’t apply to government programs… only private health insurances. So they can keep dicking over people with disabilities, esp. folks with mental health disabilities.)

(Source: democraticunderground.com, via metheguyperson)

  • 20th January
    2014
  • 20

hyme001:

txmanster:

wintergrey:

syd-k:

agentmlovestacos:

Probably the greatest gifset on Tumblr?

Ruby Rhod is magnificent. One of my favourite movie characters of all time. 

Love Fifth Element!! Always watch it when it comes on. Chris Tucker is so crazy.

One of my all time favorites. Fifth element yeah!

I’ve always thought that Ruby Rhod was a FASCINATING study in gender, orientation, and sexual dynamics.

A man that would, in our time period & culture, be seen as extremely flamboyantly gay, is seen as extremely sexually attractive to women (pretty much a sex object) and has a lot of sex with women.

Is this queer? Is he queer? Are those women queer? It’s certainly breaks every mold of heteronormativity we have right now. Are all women attracted to men like him? Is that considered “normal” or straight at that time/place? Obviously men with expressions like Korbin Dallas exist. (As well as men like Jean-Baptiste Emanuel Zorg.) Or is he a separate type of gender? And does that mean those women have a different orientation?

I have no answers, but a thousand questions, and that’s one of the reasons I love him so much. Also, he’s just FAAAABULOUS.

(Source: elprento)

  • 18th January
    2014
  • 18
When men imagine a female uprising, they imagine a world in which women rule men as men have ruled women.

Sally Kempton

I feel this is very important.

(via yourenotsylviaplath)

That’s why its so horrible to them. I saw an old anti-suffragette ad one that made EVERYTHING make sense. It was a man in a back room, holding a baby and washing clothing. There was a sign “Husband’s work ours, 3am-12pm; Monday, washing, Tuesday, Scrubbing, Wednesday, floors, Thursday, more scrubbing” and so on.   Three nicely dressed ladies were playing cards and one was saying “Oh yes, my old man is a lazy old wretch!”

Its amazing to realize the reason men are so scared of feminism is because they are afraid to be treated the way THEY HAVE ALREADY AND ALWAYS TREATED WOMEN.

Sucks, doesn’t it dudes? 

(via anddeathsmiled)

And I can totally see why they would be scared. Esp. with comments like “sucks, doesn’t it dudes?” where we imply that we would, indeed, hurt them right back.

This is where we absolutely HAVE to prove that we WILL NOT commit the same injustices against men as they have against us. If we REALLY believe in equality, we HAVE to be the better people and, if/when we succeed in uprising & hold power, we MUST go straight to a truly equal world and not do to them what they did to us. Because then we will be JUST as bad as them. In fact, we will be worse than them, because it’s happened to us before and we know how much it sucks, and therefore we know better.

(This is why it makes me SO ANGRY what the Israelis are doing to the Palestinians. Because Jews [note: I know that not all Israelis are Jews and not all Jews are Israelis or Zionists] have been oppressed for decades and therefore know better and should be using their power judiciously.)

I have a feeling if we could prove to men that we will not oppress them as they have done to us, that more men would be more comfortable and more on board with feminism. They are scared, and rightfully so, that we would take our revenge.

I, for one, refuse to take revenge. I ask you to do the same. To be the better person. It matters. It most definitely matters. Because men are human beings too, just like us, with thoughts and feelings.

(via anddeathsmiled)

  • 16th January
    2014
  • 16

queennubian:

prochoiceamerica:

Today, the U.S. Supreme Court is hearing a challenge to a buffer zone law that protects patients and staff at clinics in Massachusetts from anti-choice harassment and violence.

Across the country, extreme, often violent, anti-choice protesters physically block access to clinics and intimidate people exercising their constitutionally protected rights.  Learn more about this issue and the laws that exist to protect patients and their doctors.

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And if it’s a clinic that does multiple things, it affects ALL people going to it. I was harassed one day when I was going to a clinic for STD testing with my boyfriend. (The worst part is that there were escorts there and they said hello to us but did NOTHING. They offered no escort or help. I REALLY would have liked an escort at that time, even though I was with someone else. We both were being harassed & given a hard time. Him too.) What about the women who go to clinics for mammograms? How would the people protesting like to be harassed when they went for routine medical care?

I will admit, I don’t mind those standing silently or praying quietly or being polite to people & backing off when they say no. (A gentleman greeted us nicely and offered us a pamphlet. We said no, thank you. He said “ok, have a good day!” We wished him the same, and kept going. That was totally ok in my book.) They are exercising a constitutional right to protest, and I respect that. I’m ok with that. I mind the harassing ones. There’s no constitutional right to harassment or assault or violence.

(via mydearmissdax)