More than 300 women were shot, stabbed, strangled, beaten, bludgeoned or burned to death over the past decade by men in South Carolina, dying at a rate of one every 12 days while the state does little to stem the carnage from domestic abuse.
yeah i admit i’m not exactly a practicing bisexual anymore…i pretty much only go to services on the high holidays…i slept in on freddie mercury’s birthday…i don’t even think i can name three david bowie albums anymore
“A long time ago, when you were a wee thing, you learned something, some way to cope, something that, if you did it, would help you survive. It wasn’t the healthiest thing, it wasn’t gonna get you free, but it was gonna keep you alive. You learned it, at five or six, and it worked, it *did* help you survive. You carried it with you all your life, used it whenever you needed it. It got you out—out of your assbackwards town, away from an abuser, out of range of your mother’s un-love. Or whatever. It worked for you. You’re still here now partly because of this thing that you learned. The thing is, though, at some point you stopped needing it. At some point, you got far enough away, surrounded yourself with people who love you. You survived. And because you survived, you now had a shot at more than just staying alive. You had a shot now at getting free. But that thing that you learned when you were five was not then and is not now designed to help you be free. It is designed only to help you survive. And, in fact, it keeps you from being free. You need to figure out what this thing is and work your ass off to un-learn it. Because the things we learn to do to survive at all costs are not the things that will help us get FREE. Getting free is a whole different journey altogether.”—
it genuinely baffles me that men don’t want women in positions of power because “they’re slaves to their hormones/emotions” and yet one of the first lines of defence when it comes to rape cases tends to be “it’s hardly his fault look at what she was wearing how could we expect him to control himself”
Gee, it’s almost as if misogyny isn’t based in logic.
Please stop using disabled or disability as being an exact synonym for physically disabled. There are many other types of disability out there (mental, developmental, genetic, etc.) and when you use “disabled” when you clearly mean only the category of “physically disabled”, you render the rest of us invisible, non-existent. Our disabilities are REAL, too, and totally deserve to be under the label “disability”.
Yes, we fuck!is the name of the new innovative project launched in Spain. A documentary that freely tackles a taboo topic in today’s society: sexuality among people with disabilities. To explain it more clearly and directly – especially for those who only have a smattering of English – it is a series of films and photographs showing with no shyness nor prejudice some men and women with different types of disabilities while they have sex.
According to the film’s creators, sexuality is the most powerful booster for personal growth and for the development of personality and social relations. As such, it should be pivotal to social support provided for people with disabilities. Yet, it is often denied, repressed, silenced.Associating words like masturbation, erogenous zones or orgasm with the physically challenged is inconceivable for the largest part of the community.These actions are considered as weird since they are wanted by a different body or are triggered by not-always-conventional pleasures in certain environments.
A body with disabilities is usually seen as ill and held in a medicalized dimension; it is always seen as the object of care but never as the subject of desire. Actors or characters with some forms of disabilities are never shown even in erotic stories nor in porn films. It’s like if these individuals are not made to feel sensual pleasure.
Beyond intimate relationships, videos aim at showing not only what eroticism can bring for the disabled, but also what functional diversity can introduce to human sexuality. According to authors, ‘Yes, we fuck!‘ is not only a documentary, but a project where people interact, converse and ask questions. In this respect, social networks, starting fromFacebook, are of fundamental importance.
The diversity of eroticism, the wide sense of beauty and the fight for personal independence are at the heart of the stories published. And so will in the future. Yes, in addition to those online, creators are already looking for people who want to take part in the future shots of this project. Which is meant to change the collective imaginary through explicit images of carnality for people with disabilities.
“Neither young man deserved to die that day. Neither Michael Brown nor Dillon Taylor was convicted of a crime related to their activities on their last days, and even if they were, it wouldn’t be a capital crime. And this doesn’t appear to be an uncommon mistake.”—
When two people lust over each other immensely and kiss, it’s one of the sexiest things ever. I seriously love it. When she grinds against me hard to feel my between her legs. When I kiss her neck and hear her let out a moan in my ear followed by a “oh fuckk”. Grabbing her ass as she bites my lip followed by my hand in her hair, pulling it to bite her neck.
Colleges across the nation are introducing gender-neutral bathrooms to cater to the diversity of students on campus.
Amanda Wheeler, staff psychologist at the Student Counseling Center, said the gender-neutral bathrooms serve the diversity of students on campus, such as transgender students.
“When students are in the process of transitioning from one gender to another, having a safe place to use the restroom helps these students feel more supported by the university as a whole,” Wheeler said.
Sophia Dominguez, a senior psychology and philosophy dual major from Houston and president of Tech Feminist Majority Leadership Alliance, said she promotes the inclusive proposal of gender- neutral bathrooms.
Being inclusive for transgender as well as non-conforming genders is important to avoid a negative response when picking a bathroom, she said.
“I believe it is important to support this transition and to support what it is that they choose,” she said. “We really need to include the transgender population, because they are still making the switch.”
Dominguez said both the feminist and transgender perspectives need to be focused on.
One cause of debates centering around gender-neutral bathrooms is the safety concerns present with men and women in the same bathrooms, she said.
“When you question the safety of women,” she said, “then you are promoting women’s safety over other people’s safety. You are also promoting the idea of a negative image of males. It is important to not be exclusive when talking about safety with women.”
People will still have the choice of going into gender-neutral bathrooms or not, Dominguez said. Being inclusive provides a choice for everyone, she said.
Disregarding controversial issues like these will not promote change nor break down negative presumptions amid genders, she said.
“In regards to safety, we should act in such a way that should break down those stereotypes of having to be fearful of males — males having to feel like they’re being feared by women,” Dominguez said. “I think that is giving in to the bias we are trying to fight.”
The Tech Feminist Majority Leadership Alliance promotes change, gender equality and inclusiveness by discussing the topic of incorporating transgender and the male perspective into feminism, she said.
As universities continue to increase in population, so does the range of diversity, she said. The construction of gender-neutral bathrooms demonstrates how diversity is welcomed on campus, Dominguez said.
“I think promoting this change might be a huge topic of discussion, which is going to lead to more change and more discussion,” she said, “which will lead to a domino effect of change, and that is what we need to push toward greater equality.”
Summer Hawkins, a third-year counseling psychology graduate student from Wimberley and the secretary of the Tech Gay-Straight Alliance, said the gender-neutral bathrooms will promote awareness of diversity.
Gender-neutral bathrooms will be a potential eye-opening experience for students who identify as cisgender, Hawkins said.
According to the Oxford Dictionary, cisgender is the denoting or relating to a person whose self-identity conforms with the gender that cor- responds to their biological sex.
“Students may learn that not everyone wants to identify themselves as strictly male or female,” Hawkins said, “or that other students may question their level of safety in typical public restrooms if they do not feel like others perceive them as fitting the gender binary.”